Saturday, December 10, 2022

Guardian Angels

Guardian Angels 

Based on a true story

Humidity hung in the air like heavy curtains. Heat shimmered off parked cars in waves. The asphalt was sticky beneath her tennis shoes. Little droplets of sweat beaded her nose. She glanced ahead, and her heart sank. He was there. Again. Waiting.

He'd been there every day now since mid-September. He never spoke to her, just stood there, face shadowed by the hood of a too-large jacket, leaning against the building as she passed by. "Who even wears a jacket year-round?" she wondered. In spite of the Florida heat, she shivered. Her pace quickened a bit. She just wanted to get this over with. As she walked past, he glided away from the wall and fell in step just a few paces behind her. 

It was the early 2000's, and Candy was only seventeen. Shy, quiet, and petite, she had been plagued by various illnesses throughout her short life. Every day she left the public high school she attended and walked to her job washing dishes at a nearby restaurant. And every day he followed her. Not just after school, but throughout the day as well. She would find him lurking by her locker or turning up at the lunch table next to hers. She was almost certain he had called her home one evening, but when her mom handed her the phone, all she heard was breathing. She found herself becoming more nervous and jumpy as time passed. With a sense of relief she reached the back door of the restaurant and entered, closing it securely behind her.

She tried to ignore it because she didn't know what else to do, but it was getting worse. Last night, for example, she was sure it had been him, waiting in the shadows when she clocked out, the only indication of his presence the glow of a cigarette that went out suddenly. It was the first time he'd been waiting for her after work. Tonight, he was waiting again. She nearly ran toward her mother's car that sat idling in the parking lot. Twisting in her seat to look behind, Candy saw the bulky shape slip around the side of the building. Sleep came with difficulty that night. What if he followed her home? What if he was lurking outside right now? Were her curtains closed all the way? She'd heard his name once or twice, but she couldn't remember it-- though she knew it had been in connection with some strange, creepy stories. She tossed and turned, feeling trapped in her terror. Tomorrow was coming, and she knew with dreadful certainty that he would be there.

It happened during math class. Candy was trying to find her homework pages in her backpack when Will Johnson took the seat next to her. Out of the corner of her eye, she saw Joe Willard take a seat on the opposite side of her. What was going on? Will and Joe were both linebackers on the football team. They were huge. Candy felt more tiny and timid than ever sitting between them. And they were black. Not that she was racist, but it was strange. Why would these two hugely popular football players sandwich this little white girl who had never even spoken to them like this? "You'll be OK," Will muttered under his breath.

After class in the hall it happened again. This time Corey Fells, the star running back, joined the group. They escorted her to her literature class, waited until she entered, then disappeared down the hall. She wasn't sure what to think. Racial tensions still burbled up occasionally in this part of the country. And it was so strange, this behavior. The guys weren't really making conversation with her, it was more like they were guarding her. Lunch rolled around. She sat at her normal table. Joe, Will, Corey, and several more of the football players surrounded her. It felt like sitting in a fenced in area. The guys laughed and joked among themselves, never really paying her much mind, though if they did speak to her, it was always in respectful tones. She couldn't figure out for the life of her what was going on.

It was as she left school to walk to work that it hit her. The football players had provided her, an unpopular white girl, with a protective wall all day. The creepy guy in the over-sized jacket hadn't come near her at all. But he was waiting for her now in the same place as always, leaning against the wall. She felt her stomach tense up. Suddenly a shadow loomed up, and Will Johnson joined her. They walked together, never a word passing between them. They came to the spot where he was waiting. Will paused. He stepped over within a couple feet of the slouching figure. He just stood there, hands on hips, not saying a word, for probably thirty seconds. Candy watched, hardly breathing. Then Will spoke: "Yo, leave her alone, ya hear?" He stared down steadily until the hood nodded, then joined Candy again. "C'mon, let's go," he said.

For the rest of high school, nearly two years, the football players made themselves Candy's personal body guards. Wherever she went, one or two of them were there too. Today, Candy calls them her guardian angels. Out of all the people that knew of the situation-- friends, teachers, principals-- no one did a thing to help her. Instead, it was some of the most popular guys in school, ones of a different race, that stepped in to save her. The football players had no reason to take action. They weren't her friends, hardly knew her name, and were definitely not in the same social groups, but they saw a job to do and they did it.

Candy learned something about social responsibility in high school that we all need to learn at some point. We see situations every day of people that need help. Some are our friends that need meals cooked or houses cleaned. Others are complete strangers, perhaps leaning on a shelf in Wal-Mart with tears running down their faces or sitting beneath an overpass holding a sign that says "Please Help." Are we willing to step up and do what we can to help? Not all guardian angels are heavenly beings. Some are ordinary people like you and me.

Saturday, November 5, 2022

Backpacking

Buffalo River Backpacking Trip

October 22, 2022—October 26, 2022

 

“Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid,

neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee

whithersoever thou goest.” (Joshua 1:9)

 

Day 1: I can do this after all

 

We got the girls up around the normal time of 6:45 and assembled for breakfast wearing our hiking costumes—blue shirts and gray shorts with leggings underneath. Our hair was tied back, and we were wearing bandanas in place of our usual coverings. After a breakfast of biscuits and gravy, we made final trips to the restroom (Goodbye, underappreciated place of reprieve) and stuffed little bags with toilet paper. Miss Hannah was here by then, and had already started loading our backpacks into the Ranch vehicle, known affectionately as the Ex.

 

We left later than intended, of course. Who were we fooling when we said we’d be gone by 7:30? And started for Pruitt, the site where we planned to start our hike on the Buffalo River Trail. This trail has several sections stretching for 36 miles and is rated as challenging. Or, as Google says, moderate to strenuous. We only planned to hike 16 miles of it. The journey takes you near, as you probably guess from the name, the Buffalo River.  This river is free-flowing, among the longest rivers that remain undammed west of the Mississippi. In 1972, the Buffalo was also named the nation’s first National River by Congress.

 

And so 10:30 found us piling out of the Ex, making last bathroom stops, stretching out our limbs, and hoisting our backpacks onto our shoulders. Each pack weighed in somewhere around 33 to 36 pounds. Miss Hannah did final backpack checks, making sure everyone was fitted correctly, and we adjusted our hiking poles to the correct lengths. Then we were off, making our way silently, except for the clacking of our poles, into the Arkansas wilderness.

 

Our theme for the trip was courage. “Courage is the ability to climb the highest mountain even when you are afraid, and it is also the ability to rise and keep going on the hardest of days. We all can have courage, but it does not always look the same.” (MHN) We had also chosen a group goal (Be respectful to one another) and a personal goal to work on during the hike. My personal goals were to be self-compassionate and to be OK with not knowing anything. Have you ever tried to be the person in charge with no knowledge of what you’re doing? It was a little hard for this teacher who was used to having time to study and understand all the material before doing the lesson!




One of the greatest fears among the girls was the fear of bears, so we kept our eyes open as we hiked. The leaves had begun to change color and it was perfect weather. The going was easy for the first five minutes or so. Then we started up the first incline. I have harbored a distaste for the hill here at the ranch that one must climb to go from the barn to the house. This hill was just as bad (or maybe worse?) and we were carrying these ungainly packs on our backs. We made it to the top and paused for a breather, then continued on. The trail at spots took us on a ledge where we could look down a steep grade to the river below. Everyone had to stay focused and make use of the trekking poles!

 

I can’t tell you how many breaks we took that morning. There were quite a few. Many of them were because fear was in control, so emotions had to be worked through. I certainly can’t tell you the time, because I did not have a phone or a watch with me, and my talent of telling time by the sun is not highly developed. But eventually we stopped for lunch. Lunch was eaten out of our snack bags. Have I told you about our snack bags? Imagine a one-gallon Ziploc loaded so full it can hardly close. Inside are granola bars, Cliff bars, beef jerky, Slim Jims, dehydrated fruit, dried mangos, protein balls, cheese sticks, assorted nuts, and a few precious pieces of chocolate. Maybe there was more. It seemed like a lot, but it needed to last for breaks and lunches for five days. We spotted a snake or two and a turtle, but no bears.

 

After lunch we plodded onward, dealing with assorted heavy pack issues, blisters, and despair. We clambered down an embankment at one point in order to filter water and fill our water bottles. About an hour and a half before sundown, it became clear that we were not near enough to the camping spot Miss Hannah had hoped to reach. So we sat down by the trail (or even on the trail) and waited while she went exploring for a suitable place for night. After backtracking a ways and going ahead on the trail, she found nothing. Well, not absolutely nothing. There was a place we could maybe make work. Miss Brooke went with Miss Hannah to check it out. Soon they returned and we all set off to make camp. We left the trail and descended an incline full of brush and thorns. Partway down the slope we came to a spot that wasn’t too full of trees, and it was there we made camp.

 

Possibly it was one of the most undesirable places to camp. There was a lot of weed whacking with trekking poles, and some thorn cutting with tiny Swiss knives. Miss Brooke left with two of the girls to get more water. They came back in great good humor because they had no way to carry the full bottles, so they’d taken off their shorts and used them to carry the full bottles back up to camp. The rest of us had started setting up tents. The ground wasn’t level, so our tents looked very lopsided. We heated supper on our little propane stoves and ate by the light of our headlamps, then went to bed quite soon after. Miss Hannah reminded us to sleep with our heads up the slope, and we all, more or less, drifted off to sleep.

 

I was so relieved. I’d hiked about 5 miles and felt mostly fine. Maybe I could do this after all. It looked hopeful. I had a few blisters and was tired, but surely a night’s sleep would fix that.

 

Day 2: Pressing On

 

We had another five or six miles to hike on the second day, so we got up at a reasonable hour and had breakfast—oatmeal with peanut butter and hot chocolate or coffee if you wished. Miss Brooke’s tent had nearly collapsed during the night, and one of the girls had slid downhill a little ways in hers. Then it was time to start breaking up camp. The tents came down and got packed with only some frustration, and we were on the trail again. The second day of hiking was similar to the first, except I was already a little sore. Thankfully, part of it was through a section of woods where the trail was quite flat. It seemed we did a fair amount of stopping, but near lunch I realized I hadn’t eaten enough, and I started to feel very weak. We made it at last to a campground for lunch. There was a real toilet! We collapsed on the grass and ate our lunch, then all too soon it was time to get on the trail again. Miss Brooke talked to the girls about all the stops we’d been making, and encouraged them to try to go at least twenty minutes without asking for a break.

 

The next mile took only seventeen minutes to hike. Possibly because we were on a broad, smooth way. We were in elk territory, supposedly. The herd near the Buffalo River was released way back in 1981, and now numbers around 500. We did not see any on our hike. At the end of the mile we stopped at the Parker-Hickman Farmstead. This preserved pioneer site included a smokehouse, barns, sheds, and an outhouse. It is believed to be the oldest building along the Buffalo River. It was built pre-Civil War, in the 1830’s, and was occupied until the 1980’s.  We went inside the cabin and found the walls still covered in remnants of newsprint. It was a very cute homestead surrounded by beautiful, peaceful scenery.


Parker-Hickman Farmstead

 We had one mile left to go after the Homestead stop. Sadly, it was not quite as quick and easy as the mile before. There was one spot where a large tree had fallen across the path. We had to climb over it. Somehow I got stuck! Thanks to the person ahead of me who gave me a helping hand, or I would still be there possibly. After the tree, we had only a little ways to go to camp. This was a real camp with a fire ring. Unfortunately there was a burn ban on, so no fires for us! We erected our tents after which a couple girls went down to the river for more water with an authority. The rest of us stayed at the campsite and talked. Miss Hannah also put up a large tarp under which there was room for all of us to gather, as rain was expected the next day. This little piece of solitude was to be our home for the next two days.

 

Day 3: Rest

 

We slept in on day three. What a lovely feeling! After breakfast, Miss Brooke passed out paper and pencils and, using our water bottles as a hard surface, we each wrote an essay on How You Would Feel If Someone Told You That You Are Lovable. I would like to challenge you each to write or at least think about that topic. How does it feel to you? Is it believable? Does it bring up a lot of feelings that tell you that you are not worth loving? Is it a little scary to believe you are lovable?

 

In the afternoon Miss Brooke and Miss Hannah left for a walk down by the river while I stayed with the girls. We used our time journaling. Journaling at Raising Hope does not mean just writing down your thoughts, although that is involved. Journaling often includes a mentor writing a prompt in a notebook and the rancher responding with their feelings about the question. Then the mentor usually asks another question, and it turns into a conversation on paper, more or less.


Not our camp, but pretty close to what it looked like.


 We had quiet time in the afternoon, when all the girls went to their tents. I don’t remember for sure when it happened, but at some point one of the girls asked for a circle-up. A circle-up takes place when there has been a problem that needs to be worked through. It is supposed to be a safe place of honest sharing. That being said, there are often strong emotions evoked in a circle-up that must be addressed. In this particular case, the girl who requested the circle-up had gone into the woods to take care of the call of nature. Along the way she had stepped in a pile of what we will refer to as human evidence (props to my 7th &  8th grade teacher for this term). Someone had been too lazy to dig a hole as is required in such cases, and the other girl felt, understandably, disrespected. We had a good discussion, and the girls each took responsibility for the future use of shovel using.

 

As we went to sleep that night, it begin to rain as had been predicted. It is lovely to sleep with the sound of rain on your tent.

 

Day 4: What is it to be dry?

 

The rain, while lovely at night, continued on to mid morning. It made for a pretty, dreamy atmosphere in the woods, but the reality is that we now had mud and wet clothing to contend with. Things that we usually hung up over night to dry out, were not dry in the least. A couple of the tents had leaked a little at the seams, but nothing major. Our lovely tarp that was meant to keep us dry was able to do so, but rain had run down the gentle slope it was on the night before, and the floor was quite muddy in places.

 

Nonetheless, we got up and around and had breakfast. Then Miss Brooke sent the girls to their tents to work on essays about our theme verse. Next, with some dressed in ponchos and some choosing jackets, we took a walk down to the river. We stopped at a cozy cove across from a miniature waterfall and watched the leaves drift down like confetti and float past on the current. We moved to a second spot called Goat Bluffs, and again sat in silence for a while, soaking in the beauty of nature. There was a weasel on the opposite bank, going about his daily house chores it appeared, and it was fun to watch him. I was impressed with the lack of perfection in nature’s scenery. If the bluffs had been created with perfect straight lines, every tree was a stiff sentinel, and each rock was uniformly round, what a dull place nature would be. But our Creator lovingly formed every rocky cliff, each bent tree, every misshapen rock, and each imperfect human. And it is there in the imperfections that we stand back and gaze in awe at the beauty.



 

After lunch there was again quiet time for the girls. During quiet time, Miss Hannah, by some type of magic, managed to start a fire using wet wood. I was quite possibly the most thankful for a fire I had ever been. In the evening we stood with hands outstretched as the fire fell to embers and sang by memory. We could see a few stars in the night sky through the branches above us, and they were beautiful.

 

The night was bitterly cold. I wore two jackets and a beanie to bed, and I was still so cold I could hardly sleep. During the night I heard something hit the side of my tent, but I thought it was a falling branch or someone bumbling around on their way to do business in the woods. I heard a tent zipper open and close, but then I snuggled down in my beanie and two hoods and heard nothing else.

 

Day 5: Success!

 

When I woke up and stumbled out of my tent the next morning, Miss Hannah accosted me and said she needed to talk to me. Apparently there were a couple of us who snored in the night. One of the girls had kicked on the side of her tent, hoping to wake up those of us who were causing a disturbance. When that didn’t work, she climbed out of her tent, walked over and kicked the side of my tent until I woke up. This was what I had heard during the night, not a branch or bumbling person. Miss Hannah, thankfully, had caught the person responsible and talked to her during the night.

 

At breakfast time, another girl asked for a circle-up because she had been kept awake by someone kicking the tent walls, so the girl responsible owned up to her actions, admitted they were disrespectful, and apologized. As a consequence, she was given the job of packing my tent up as well as her own. This was not something she enjoyed! The tents are often viewed as unfavorable nemesis by the girls. But she did quite well, and we all loaded our packs up and started on the last leg of our hike.

 

I think it is safe to say we were all ready to get home. The girls did a very good job with the hiking, and we had not nearly so many requests for stopping as we had the first day. The hiking itself was very hard. There was a lot of up hill, the path was quite narrow and right by a cliff. Everything was muddy and covered with leaves still slippery from the rain. I was incredibly thankful for my trekking poles. The verse that says “…my foot had well nigh slipped…” kept coming to mind. My body had almost forgotten on our two rest days that it was sore, but as I puffed up the inclines like a deranged hippo, it reminded me in all sorts of unenchanting ways. It also informed me that I had not ever treated it like this before, and it could see no reason I should begin to do so now.  For me, the last day of the hike was definitely the hardest. I learned, however, that it was always possible to travel through one more valley and up one more hill than I thought I could. The song that says “I will strengthen thee, uphold thee, and help thee to stand,” kept going around and around in my head during the worst of it, and was a great comfort.


We took a detour to check out Twin Falls. 
There wasn't quite this much water on the day we were there.

At last we had only a mile left to go and it was downhill travel. We plodded wearily, silently, through the trees, wending our way between rocks, and down stair-step sections of the trail. And finally, finally we came to the edge of a parking lot. And there, waiting for us, was our beloved Ex and a real bathroom. There was quiet exultation in the air—everyone was too exhausted to say much. But the feeling of success was with us. We loaded our packs, climbed in, and headed back to the ranch. As we followed the winding road back toward Gentry, we saw a bunch of vehicles stopped by the road with people setting up tripods and holding expensive looking gadgets. There, near the road, was a herd of elk. We didn’t get out of our vehicle to view them, but we did do a very slow drive by.

 

We arrived home around 6:30. The ranch house was buzzing with people as it was Miss Brooke’s birthday and all had gathered to celebrate. It was a very lovely evening, but I think the best part was getting a delicious shower and washing off five days’ worth of grime. And then it was time for bed. And it was cozy and warm and lovely, and I went to sleep exhausted, but it was a good exhaustion.

 

And that’s all. The whole trip. Well, there may be more I didn’t think to add, but I’ve already written so much I dare not remember anything else. Would I go again? Ask me after long enough has passed that I forget what the sore muscles felt like. Ask me after I no longer remember being so cold I could hardly sleep. Ask me after the memory of crawling slowly up the last inclines has slipped from my mind. And I would probably say yes. Yes, because nature brings you so much closer to God. Yes, because there’s something about silence in the woods at night that make you feel like a pioneer from the 1800’s. Yes, because challenging yourself and stretching yourself farther than you think you can stretch gives you confidence and courage.

 

And yes, because I will treasure this trip as long as I remember it. And that, friends, will be a very long time. 

P.S. A big thank you to every person that supported us with monetary assistance! It meant a lot to know how many people cared.   

Tuesday, September 13, 2022

Lists

 Does your day need a remedy, a resolution, or a celebration? Try List Writing!

    I’m enthused about lists right now. Have you ever thought about how neat lists are? They fall into a category of their own. There are no rules for making a list. There is no expectation to show it to anyone else. It can be long or short. It can take the place of a diary. It can be enlightening. And anyone can make a list—school children, busy mothers, thoughtful grandfathers. You don’t even have to write it down if you don’t want to. You can make your list as dull or eloquent as you like. You can make it straight to the point or add sub-lists. The benefits go on and on.
    I’ve mostly made lists in my life that are hum-drum and disappointing. Chores to do, Groceries to buy, Bills to pay. There have been a couple fun ones—places to visit on this trip and books to read would be among them, but what about giving lists an entirely new life? I think some have tried to do so by bullet journaling. I’m just going to call it list-making.
It’s like this: You know the thankful lists that some people faithfully write? Well, maybe you think it’s a good idea, but it looks daunting. You can change the rules a little, if you list. How about a list called Things that Make Me Smile or Things I’m not Sad About or even Things That Were Not Unpleasantly Normal?
    How about making a list of things you did instead of things you need to do? Why not record the verses that impress you during the week or the answers to prayer you've experienced? What if you documented the laughter you shared with your child instead of the number of times you had to punish him?
    Lists can bring clarity. Sometimes when you see the large number of positive things compared to the smaller list of negative things that happened in the day you realize it wasn’t as bad as you thought. Sometimes making lists can help make a decision—just seeing the pros and cons right in front of you. Sometimes lists are just for you to look back on and smile at.
    I wish there were a few more lists started. How about a list of elderly or shut-ins that people could write letters to? Maybe a list of bridal shower and baby shower games? Or how about a list of names that people should never name their children?
    But that’s enough about lists. Below you will find some of mine from the fairs I did with my dad recently. I got started writing lists and found I couldn’t stop. They aren't elegantly worded or correctly punctuated. There may be some spelling errors. Perhaps you'll end up with more questions than answers. So you don’t have to read them, but you may. And if they inspire someone to write lists of their own, that’s even better.
 
Statistics:
7 hours driven with the windows down because the air conditioner didn't work
810 gallons of gas burned
3,000 miles traveled
22 nights spent in hotels
4 shows
726 dip & cheeseball samples used
72 gallons of soup made

States Traveled Through:
Louisiana
Arkansas
Missouri
Kansas
Iowa
Minnesota
South Dakota

Things People Left at our Booth:
A flag that says "Trump 2020" plus some words I won't repeat
1 Firestone jacket
1 XL sweatshirt that said "Alcohol first, Relatives later"
2 New Testaments
1 child's blow-up toy ball
1 notepad
3 yardsticks
1 flyswatter
1 cloth bag

Things People Gave Us:
1 broom
1 Artic thermos
2 yardsticks
1 cloth carry bag with Minnesota State University on it
1 free supper at Denny's
1 jar of honey
1 bag of kettle corn
1 paper fan

Things Carried Out of the Hotel in One Trip by One Person (me):
1 backpack
1 blanket
1 purse
1 orange tree
2 pieces of luggage

Restaurants We Dined At:
McDonalds
Burger King
Wendy's
Dairy Queen
Popeyes
Grizzlies
371 Diner
The Barn
Perkins
Applebee's
Pizza Hut
Denny's
Famous Dave's BBQ

Things I Bought or Traded Soup For:
Infused Honey
Larry's Peeler (yes, I know, a sucker born every minute and all. But you should have heard all the people that had owned a peeler for years and loved it.)
1 Orange Tree
1 bar of chocolate
3 bags of coffee (not for me, just to be clear)
1 bag of tea
1 tin of Watkins Cinnamon 
From Wal-Mart (they don't let you trade for things):
1 soft blanket
1 jacket
1 pair of tennis shoes

Entertainment at the Fair We Did Not Attend:

Concert by Florida Georgia Line
Concert by Maddie & Tae
Concert by Josh Turner
State Fair Rodeo

Attr
actions We Visited:
Model Train Museum
Como Park Zoo & Conservatory

Attractions I'll Have to Go Back to Visit:
Laura Ingalls Wilder Home
Betsy & Tacy Home
Charles Lindbergh Home & Museum
Jesse James' Birthplace
George Washington Carver National Museum

Things That Made Me Smile:
All the old vehicles that drove by on their way to and from the antique car show
The teenage guy that thought the sleeping vendor was dead and freaked out
Getting to watch piglets being born
The stunning starry sky in Rural South Dakota
Dogs
Little kids that play peek-a-boo while their moms shop
Teenagers raised in the country that have learned respect
The people that asked where I was from, particularly the blind lady that asked if I really had an accent or if I was just putting it on
The cats in the apartment window by our booth in Little Falls
The delicious sweet breads and muffins at the continental breakfast at LivInn
The 13 year old boy hanging out with his buddies that bought a dip
That the organizers of the South Dakota Fair put the Republican booth right beside the Democrat booth. Were they purposefully trying to start something?
The disc golf tournament in a park we drove through
The mist over the Mississippi River on a Minnesota morning
The group of teenagers that were tired of shopping so they found an empty place near our booth and arm wrestled instead
The college guy that happened by when we were cleaning up at the end of the day and was delighted to take a couple left-over dip samples home with him
Hearing from friends after they read my blog. I know I'm a terrible long-distance communicator, but I do think of all of you & I'm thrilled when you message just to say hi!
A CCC project being revived by the Iroquois youth/congregation
The girl who thought we were selling pretzels and complained she couldn't tell a difference from one to the other. Her friend corrected her and informed her she was supposed to use the pretzel to sample the dip.
That the guy who made announcements over the loudspeaker in Owatonna ended every announcement with "that is all" said in a very monotone voice
The old-fashioned "ring for service" bell at the Iowa hotel's front desk

Things I Learned:
That rocks have to be gathered out of the fields every year in Northern locations because when it freezes they are pushed out of the ground. How have I never learned this?
People like to feel like Sherlock. But please ask what the most popular dip or soup is. Just because the basket is empty does nor mean it is a best seller.
It is possible to go for 11 hours without food, restroom, and only one bottle of water because you're so busy
That people in Minnesota don't often have porches, at least not where I was
If you don't eat all day you do have room for dessert at a restaurant
How rented tents are put up and taken down on concrete (they have to drill holes) And that people who do it for a job only take fifteen minutes or so to put up a 20x20 tent from start to finish
That if you need a windowsill for the tree you impulse bought on which to sit and get sun in the hotel room, an ironing board set up a foot or two from the floor works well
How bus stops work on a busy interstate
Seeing people out for a good time and yet so unfulfilled can take away any desire you may have to partake in so-called "good time"
What a potato digger looks like
You can work a 12-14 hour day on four hours of sleep
That people tend to be more respectful of the daily national anthem than of the daily opening prayer

Things That Made Me Roll My Eyes:
The guy that asked if the cups with ice were to wash your hands after sampling dips (they were cups for dips that we hadn't put out yet)
Dad's don't outgrow dad jokes
The fact that a guy started an arts and crafts show on the same days in a nearby town because he was offended at Little Falls officials

Things That Annoyed Me:
When people sample dips in large amounts for a long time and don't buy anything
Flies
A non-working air conditioner
That they've come up with three methods for using a credit card, but as a cashier I'd be happy if there was one that I could depend on to work every time
That some hotels have suspended room service since Covid & you now have to ask for fresh towels or washcloths whenever you need them
Port-a-pots
Falling down the steps. Ok, it was early and dark and I was tired & thought I was at the bottom step. I wasn't.
A certain vending machine that blatantly stole my money
The smell of hog barns

Things That Made Me Sad:
The hopelessness in the faces of so many people
Children that are being raised in homes where they are insecure
The shooting at the Minnesota State Fair
All the people living against the proper order God instituted in the beginning
The poor innocent deaf woman who tried Blazin' Saddles and was literally weeping from the habanero in it. I was so glad I at least had a small bottle of water to give her!
The guy that walked out of the restaurant because he didn't think he got the service he deserved
The family in Owatonna who had a teenage son that had been in a car wreck several months ago. He was in a wheelchair and had suffered brain damage. His mother said he no longer knew what foods he liked, and it was different from before the wreck, so he had to try everything.  "It's been hard," she said. "This is my sister," the boy said, showing me a picture in his wallet, "she's beautiful."

Questions That Remain Unanswered:
Why do the lights of most wind chargers in an area blink on and off together, but sometimes there are two or three that are timed differently?
Why do some roads have a solid rumble strip down the middle and one with intervals on the side? I know why they have rumble strips both places, I'm just wondering why different types.
Why was a field we passed planted alternating every few rows between two different crops?
Why doesn't the South have as many flowers on the roadsides as the Northwest?
Why did someone put up a small wind charger that barely stuck over the trees? Kansas-sized trees, not southern-sized trees.

Things I Am Thankful For Now More Than Ever:

God's Church
Modesty
Peace
Worshipping With God's People on Sunday
Getting to spend time with my dad
The beautiful singing of God's people
That we can listen to church over the phone
That the shows we were at did well
That I could be a friendly face for the lady from the Republican booth in Owatonna. She came rushing over to me and shared how scared she was after being verbally attacked by someone that didn't share her views. "You looked like a friendly face, and I was shaking!"
That I got to taste the Minnesota & South Dakota cultures
That someone in Iroquois was willing to mix up dip & cheeseball samples for us
That I was mostly unhurt after aforementioned early hour step descending incident
That the son and grandson of the elderly man attending the South Dakota State Fair managed to get his rented electric cart turned before it ran full speed into our table full of soup samples. Seriously, I know the carts are brilliant for people who aren't able to walk long distances, but the place that rents them out should make potential customers run an obstacle course first to make sure they are able operators.
That our box truck has a lift gate
That I live in the South
That there are still parents- young parents- doing a good job with raising their children
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Friday, September 9, 2022

Stories From the Road

     I have some spare time today, and it occurred to me that maybe some of you are curious about what I've been up to. Many of you know I took the year off from teaching, and some of you know I'm doing shows with my dad. But exactly what does "doing shows with my dad" entail? Here's a peak into my life the last several weeks.

    My adventures on the road started August 15 when I flew out of Jackson, Mississippi, to join my dad in Minnesota. What exactly does Dad do? He works for the company All of Us Old Plantation Soups and Dips. You can find the company and order online here. I am so thankful the family who runs the business has excellent taste! Their products honestly are delicious. Other than ordering online, the only way you will find this product is at arts and crafts fairs, state fairs, etc., across the U.S. 

This is the top-selling soup and my personal favorite. 
When customers ask which soup is the best, the common
answer is, "Anything with a blue label!"

    Setting up for a show is a lot of work. There are tables to be unloaded and set up, cords to be run for sinks, microwave, toaster oven, and fridge, and product to be displayed. 

This is an old picture I found online, but the booth set-up looks something like this.

    The thing that makes All of Us stand out from the crowd is the samples. If you visit our booth, you can sample each one of the 20 dips and 13 cheeseballs. You will be offered soup samples, somewhere between three and six varieties depending how large the show is. If you come at the right time, you may also get a taste of Southern Pecan Pie muffins or Chocolate Cobbler. One of the newer products is Louisiana Yardbird (Chicken) Salad. All this sampling, of course, means more work: coming early to make soup, keeping the dips and cheeseballs iced down so they don't go bad, refilling jars of pretzels, wheat thins, and tortilla chips so our customers have something to sample with. 
    But everyone needs food. Most people enjoy food. And it's a lot of fun to watch someone try our products for the first time and see their eyes go wide in delight and watch them come back later with a friend to ensure they get to try the soup, too.
    Of course it is the people, always the people, that make it interesting.
    The first show Dad and I worked was the Steele County Fair. Folks there were quick to inform us this is the largest free county fair in America.

As you can see, there was a lot going on at Owatonna's Steele County Fair.
We experienced none of it, of course, because 
we are inside a building at our booth the entire time. 


    The Owatonna/Steele County Fair was interesting. Often at a fair we have busy periods where people are around the booth 3 deep followed by times of absolutely nothing. Not in Owatonna! Instead, we had a steady trickle of customers, just enough that you stayed busy, but few enough you kept wondering when the crowd was going to show up. 
    One of my favorite things there were the children and young teens that would come to our booth and sample. One group of girls came just about every day. The one girl, about 13 or so, bought her own dip mix, and another brought her mother to try things out.
    Besides the customers, we're also surrounded by other vendors. Many of these you form a relationship with by the last day, particularly at a longer show. Owatonna was five days long, mostly 10:30 a.m. to 9 p.m. Keep in mind we try to get to the show two hours early in order to prepare for the day. 
    Across from us were three men, one Hispanic, one Israeli, and one of uncertain origins that were selling some sort of potion that could make you look fifteen years younger. I went back and forth between being amused at their methods and being upset that so many women (and their husbands) had so little self-respect as to allow themselves in essence to be called old and ugly.
    Beside us was the Department of Correction trying to get job applicants. Just down the aisle were some people selling heating and cooling pads. I don't know brands, so I'm not going to provide a link, but I know we love ours! 

These are awesome! There's a little button inside you
push to make them warm up automatically. You boil them
in order to return them to how they were to start with.
Put them in the freezer if you want them cold.

    One of the ladies working there was named Hailey and she stopped by our booth for samples every day. When we cleaned out left over soup at the end of the day, Hailey took some home for supper as well as the guys across the aisle. 
    Also just down the way was a man from South Africa selling wire cars. Anyone who's been in Africa will recognize the style. He and his wife were the nicest people. He told me he wanted to inspire children to play outside.

    
    Although you meet lots of nice people and see plenty of kind deeds, the fairs are not free of scandal either. There was a vendor that was packed up and escorted off the property by the police. Rumors had it they were disobeying rules by going out in the aisles and accosting potential customers. Supposedly they were also preying on vulnerable elderly women and were signing them up for unwanted, hard to understand memberships for their company at a rate of $2,500 a piece.
    And then there was the most interesting person I met at the fair. I met him when a rainstorm sent all the fairgoers and vendors outdoors rushing inside for shelter. We had a lengthy discussion.

    
Not him, but someone similar.
You probably know more than I do,
but I think he was a Rastafarian.

    He was born, he told me, on a plane somewhere between Jamaica and Australia. He was very highly educated, but he had chosen to renounce his education. He recognized me as a Mennonite and tried to pin me down on how I was "cheating" the rules of my religion. He told me he had chosen the name "Baba." I found this interesting, as Baba is the Shona word for father. I asked him about this, and he informed me he was able to speak 80 languages. 
    "Wow!" I said.
    "Yes," Baba said, "I can speak dog and chicken. I am trying to learn snake, but it is harder." 
    I can't remember the whole conversation, but we talked about being vegan. He told me I was a compassionate person and because I admitted I disliked killing animals, he was sure I had a subconscious knowledge it was wrong to do so. He explained at great lengths the reasons that killing off mosquitoes would damage the food chain. He told me if humans were nonexistent the animal world would heal itself in only a very few years. I did not think to ask him at the time how this would work, since if the tiny mosquito is so important, surely the larger human predator would be even more so?
    I did ask him if it was wrong to kill animals why animals killed each other. "Oh," he said, "animals are just lazy."
    Then I asked him if he believed animals had souls.
    Yes, Baba said he did. His explanation was confusing me, so I finally asked him what he believed a soul was. I can't say I completely understood that answer either, but it did explain why I was so confused by some of his views. The response was something down the line that a soul could also be called energy or quantum. Nothing truly existed, he said. 
    "So you believe...?" was how I started my next question.
    "No," he said, "You see, I think you cannot believe in anything."
    "Oh, but you have to believe in something!" I told him. "It's impossible to believe in nothing!"
    That seemed to pause him for a moment. Finally he said, "You are very wise for one so young. Where did you get so wise?"
    I told him any wisdom I had was not mine, but God's. That answer was hard for him to accept, so he asked me maybe twice more, and I just kept replying, "from God," until he gave up. 
    I must admit I did find the conversation taxing, and I tried my best to be busy the next couple times I saw him. He brought me some kettle corn later, telling me it was a good vegan snack. 
    Kettle corn is good, but one cannot live by kettle corn alone. I am quite happy to be an omnivore.
    At last the fair ended, and we loaded up to head back to the motel. It was nearly 11:00 p.m. by the time we left the fairgrounds.

Our magnificent ride looks like this, more or less. The seats
can hardly be said to be comfortable. 

    Our next stop was in Minneapolis at the Minnesota State Fair. This is a huge deal. It is the largest fair in the U.S. by attendance, and second only to Texas by land area. We joined another crew there to help out for several days. I was glad we didn't have to stay the entire time! It's a twelve-day event, and we were there plenty long for me after the first five or so days.


    May I inform you that although the people I met were not unpleasant, they were messy eaters. And they ate a lot. I was constantly refilling pretzel containers. I started keeping track, and we were going through sixteen bags of pretzels a day. And I'm not sure how they did it, but the ice cups we put our dips and cheeseballs in were so messy, we started covering them all with plastic bags to save on clean up time. My main job was running the register, and I was positioned across from a vendor named Larry. Larry is a bit of a legend in the fair industry, and a staple at the Minnesota state fair.

Larry has been at the fair for 
approximately 36 years.

    You would not believe how many people came by and said, "Oh! It's Larry! I've watched him since I was a kid, and he was just as old then as he is now!" They would ask to take pictures with him and watch his spiel with fascination, the same as they have for the last number of years. 
    Larry was quite tickled to hear that someone had taken a photo of him and entered it in the fair. "You can see me twice," he'd tell people, "once here, and once on the wall in the fine arts building!"
    Larry sells peelers, and his sales patter is so good that you'll probably end up buying one even if you don't want to. You can see it for yourself by following this link to Larry's Peeler. Scroll down to the bottom of the page and you'll find a video of his sales pitch.
    One of the things I dislike about living on the road is doing laundry either at hotels or laundromats. On the evening before we were supposed to leave Minneapolis, we went down to the laundry room in the motel where we were staying. 


    Would you believe it? They were all busy or out of order. Except one. And that one was just being loaded by a vendor just down the aisle from us at the fair. In fact, we've talked to him some, and he's a really nice guy. No laundry for us that night. But our fellow vendor was having a problem.
    "Hey," he said, "would you mind using your card in this machine? I'm having trouble with mine. I'll pay you back."
    So Dad paid for his laundry. 
    "Are those your clothes?" the vendor asked, motioning to the washers in action. 
    "No," Dad said, "we were just coming to do ours."
    "And you paid for mine? Man, if that was me I would've told you to get your stuff out and let me do my laundry if I was paying anyhow. Guess God was looking out for me tonight!"
    We shrugged and laughed and went back to our room. The next morning the same vendor approached us as we ate the continental breakfast. "Would you believe it?" he said, "My clothes are stuck in that washer! It quit partway through and it's full of water and I can't get anything out. Looks like God was watching out for you, not me!"
    Apparently the event was impressive to him, because I heard him telling other people the same story throughout the day. "And I don't mess with God," he told one man.
    Honestly, what could we say? I think God was watching out for us. We were leaving that day and had it been our clothes stuck in the washer, we would have certainly been in trouble.
    Our next stop was South Dakota. We stayed with one of Dad's cousins there. It was special for me to get to meet them, as I don't really know any of my dad's extended family. The South Dakota State Fair is an entirely different vibe from the Minnesota State Fair. I thoroughly enjoyed it.

The building across the street from us housed chickens, goats,
a couple of cows that calved during the fair, and two sows that farrowed.

    Rural South Dakota, I decided, has the nicest people. They are respectful, hard workers, and not in the least entitled. There were a lot of 4H shirts, cowboy hats, and big belt buckles. Every morning when we arrived we drove past calves getting washed and ready to show. Several of the streets between the buildings were dirt, and there were golf carts everywhere, ready to give you a ride if you needed it. The atmosphere was more laid back and openly friendly. I would definitely visit South Dakota again!
   In our building was a place that sold milk, shakes, and ice cream cones. They had a steady stream of visitors, and by Saturday had already sold the same amount of ice cream they had sold the entire year before. Across from us was a lady selling infused honey.

This tasted like you could put it on ham and grill it.
There were other flavors that would work well in hot tea or coffee.

    She was representing the family run business, Little Shire Farm, which you can find here. She and I had some fun trading products. I'd never experienced infused honey before, and I loved it. The cinnamon and salted varieties were great as well!
    We found out while we were here that there had been a shooting at the Minnesota State Fair. While I was glad we were no longer there, my heart is heavy for those affected.
    I also met another gentleman at this fair. Unlike Baba, he did not give me his name, and unlike Baba, he did not leave me feeling confused.
    "I was born in South Dakota, and I'll die in South Dakota," he told me, "but after I die, I'm going somewhere even better. You know where that is?"
    "Where?" I asked.
    "Heaven," he told me. "I'm going to Heaven. Are you going to Heaven?"
    "Yes, sir," I told him.
    "How do you know?" he asked.
    "Because I believe Jesus died for my sins and He's forgiven me," I answered. I didn't really know what to say, but I think the Spirit must have given me those words.
    "That's a good answer," the man told me. "So many people I ask say they don't know or they hope so or that they're trying to be good enough. I met one lady and I asked her if she was going to Heaven. She told me right away, 'Oh, yes!' and I asked her how she knew, and she said, 'Well, I try to be good and I'm a Catholic,'" he shook his head. "Nope, that isn't going to work."
    I had to abandon our conversation because a customer was needing attendance, but I feel that gentleman had a better grasp on how to get to Heaven than many people do. And I was impressed he was willing to strike up spiritual conversation with random strangers.
    Now here we are in a small town near Little Falls, Minnesota, waiting for the next fair to start.


    This fair is a little different than the others. For one thing, it's all outside. For another, it is strictly arts and crafts, so not so many larger companies will be represented like at some of the other fairs where there were booths for Usborne, Pampered Chef, and Norwex. (I never saw Lemongrass though, lol.)
    This is only a two day fair, and it will be time to head home. I am grateful. 
    The next question will be how we survive the trip home as our air conditioner has quit. But I'm sure we will. We've survived many other things, after all.
    Thanks for coming along on our road trip! I apologize if this got too long. Next time you visit an arts and crafts fair, maybe you'll remember this, and think about everything that goes on behind the scenes. And although the schedule can be grueling, we also have experiences and chances to talk to people we'd never meet otherwise. So long for now!


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